Spin Weight Loss Sabotage Into Weight Loss Support

If you read my introduction on this Blog, you will know that I have been following a way of eating (WOE) plan for the past year now.  It really is a lifestyle that has become a natural way of life for me.  On this plan. I have lost 40 lbs, (looks like it's 80 lbs because it's fat loss) many inches and I feel better than I have ever felt in my whole adult life.  I'm getting in balance, feeling good, looking good,  feeling focused and more confident in the world. I know I look like a totally different person, but really, I'm still me!

I've had some experiences, as of late, that I would like to share with you and discuss how to handle tricky interactions with others.  The thing is, I've received a few comments at work by people who have been saying what I think they believe to be positive statements about my weight loss but seems like they have been saying them in a not so positive way.  Check these statements out.....

"You have lost so much weight, are you sick?"  I'm sure this person had real concern for me and my well-being, but some people tend to see the glass half-empty.  If this kind of issue comes up, it's best to just reassure the person you are ok, tell them you feel the best you have in years and encourage them to be happy for you.  Say to them, you are meeting the goals you have set for good health.

"You don't need to lose anymore weight."  I know I am getting very close to my goal weight.  Probably 5 more pounds.  I'm honest with people, and tell them just that.  I reassure them I am realistic about my goal weight, my weight loss and am looking forward to reaching my goal.

"You're melting away to being invisible."  Ok, that one was weird.  I had to stop, pause and visualize that one!  Then, we laughed at the absurdity!  Really!

Throughout this past year, I have had family gatherings, holidays, birthdays and special dinners.  Some issues I've had to deal with from family members or friends are things like this:  (you may relate)

"Oh, you've been doing really good, you can have some cake"  I always politely remind them, that I am on plan and cake just isn't my thing.  The WOE I'm on actually balances out my metabolism and I really have no desire for cake.  A good strategy I use is to bring a dessert that fits my plan to take to functions. 

"You don't like my cooking anymore?"  I remind them that I actually love their cooking, but I'm working with a very specific food plan.  My strategy:  I have no problem in bringing my own food.

It just may be people are uncomfortable with change; love the old you; the person they are used to. Although my spouse is very supportive of my WOE and decision to get healthy, I have dealt with this:

"If you get thin and too beautiful, are you going to leave me?"  I use reassurance. I make it a point to say we have been together for so many years and I am not going anywhere.

When working on a diet plan, losing weight, getting healthy and taking care of yourself,  it's best to be organized, in control, motivated and committed to your goals.  Do this thing for you!  Deflect any sabotage with kindness and understanding.  People are concerned and curious about you, the changes you are going through and how you are doing just that!  Turn negative comments into positive ones and be the first one to be happy for you!  Lynn