Sunday, December 26, 2010

Beyond the New Year's Weight Loss Resolution

"I'm in it to win it"
-Geno Auriemma, head coach, UCONN Huskies Women's Basketball team

With the coming New Year, a typical New Year's resolution is to lose weight, go on a diet.  My blog entry today is to give some motivational pointers to go beyond the resolution.  We must push and inspire ourselves to make that commitment, then go beyond it.

It sure would be nice to have a motivating coach, one who pushes us harder and further to be the best we can possibly be in order to keep us on track, stay inspired and committed to our diet and healthy lifestyle.  For most of us; however, sticking to that healthy lifestyle is a personal thing that only we can do for ourselves.  We need to be our own coach! 

Here are some inspirational points to consider for your New Year diet resolutions:

- Find that thing inside you that drives you to succeed.  What is the real reason to commit?

-Become your own mentor who completely cares about and believes in you.

-Have high expectations of yourself, your goals and ambition.

-Stay focused on your weight loss plans and get it done.

-Be your own leader, no one else is going to do it for you.

-When your resolution is not going easy, reach deeper inside yourself and make it happen.

-Expect greatness from yourself and maintain a level of excellence to do well with your plan.

-Continue to plan things out and stay organized with your healthy goals.  Pave your path.

-Always move forward and keep your plans rolling. 

I believe when we put emotions behind our weight loss and health goals, we develop a mindset that cannot be beat.  This winning combination inspires us to continue to step up to the challenge and take the prize of a better life!

With regard to my weight loss, I'm proud to say I'm a loser; yet, I am in it to win it.  Are you in?

Have a Happy and Healthy New Year.

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Act, Dream, Plan, Believe.........

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe. - Anatole France

The other day, I was very impressed with an old friend who decided to start the diet plan I follow last week!  Wow, to start a diet right before the holidays is very commendable.  She decided to take action on her weight loss goals.  No wavering, excuses, nor reasons not to start now!  She said she absolutely believed she could do it.


That made me think about my own weight loss thinking and how I tend to live my life in two ways. On one hand, I'm a very practical person.  I organize and plan my weight loss goals out.  On the other hand, I'm also what I'd call visionary.  I like to dream about and deeply believe in attaining those goals.  I have come to recognize, when I combine both those facets of my life, I'm more successful with my weight loss.


To act, is to take the first step.  The best way to do this is to find and commit to a weight loss plan that suits you.  It is important to learn everything about and understand the plan, seek out support and assistance and then go for it.  Just do it.  Continue to commit.


To dream, is to actually "see" yourself meeting your weight loss goals.  See yourself more healthy.  Dream about wearing clothes that fit properly and enhance your appearance.  See yourself getting around better and feeling like you have more energy.  As you become more confident about your dreams coming true, they DO become more of a reality!


To plan, is to be organized.  Attaining weight loss requires planning and organization for the best and most optimal results.  It is necessary to organize your food choices, food shopping, food preparation, and you must always have the right or proper, healthy food on hand no matter what circumstance.  Have your plan set in your mind for sticking to your diet whether you are going out, traveling, attending parties, family gatherings or celebrating holidays.  It is imperative you organize time in your life to exercise.  Also, plan some time for utilizing support groups or supportive people either in person or online.

To believe, is to really believe in yourself.  Know you can do this; you can stick to plan and lose weight, become healthy.  I deeply believed I could "do this thing" (my personal mantra) and no one could dissuade me, not even myself.  I had that much conviction and belief in my weight loss journey.  


I encourage you all to continue to act upon, dream, plan and believe in your own weight loss goals.  Always continue to inspire yourself!  Always, have the confidence to stay on track and most of all, truly believe you can do it!



Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Every So Often "Shake" Up your Exercise Routine

So, I'll admit it, I'm not any expert on exercise routines.  To be honest, I exercise not because I really, really want to go to the gym, but I do exercise regularly because I have to do that for my health.  I do; however, want to know more about exercise so when I'm in the gym, I'm getting the most out of my time spent there.  I talk to the professional trainers there and my spouse is a former Bodybuilding Champion, so  I feel I get good, practical advice from helpful people.   My blog entry today is to share that with you and tell you about my latest crazy time at the gym. 

Here are some exercise tips for getting the most out of your time spent working out.

-Whether you go to a gym, workout at home or take a walk or run, do that at least 5 times a week for 30 mins.

-If you have been doing the same workout over and over again for the past several months, your body will start to get used to it and the workout benefit will not be as great.

-If you are a beginner, change up your workout routine about every 6 weeks.  This resets your body, because, as I said above,  if you are doing the same thing all the time, you will not see as much change as you would like to see for your efforts.

-If you are more advanced, change up your workout every 4 weeks.

-Find new ways to make your exercise routine FUN!!!  And some suggestions are:
     1.  Partner up with a workout buddy.
     2.  Go out and play sports like tennis, golf, cycling.  Make this activity a social thing.
     3.  Find a hobby that requires physical exercise.  I am an extreme winter water metal detectorist
           and I'm getting excellent exercise while finding cool treasures!
     4.  Use your TV to workout to DVDs, dance to music on your Ipod or dance CDs.
     5.  Get exercise and relax at the same time by taking a walk or run in nature, ie, in the woods, at a
           park or at the beach.    
     6.  Go to a group fitness class with a good instructor who is enthusiastic and knowledgeable.

The last point I make, go to a fitness class, is where my funny story comes into "play"  I decided to "Shake" up my exercise routine and I had been hearing people talk about how much they liked their Zumba classes.  Now, Zumba is a dance fitness program created to combine Latin and international music with dance in an effort to make exercise fun.  At my gym there are Zumba classes as part of the membership.  Last night, I got up the courage and took my first class.  Let me tell you, it was fun, I loved the music, but I felt like I was Lucy in the I love Lucy Show.  You know, when she would try to sneak into Ricky's show routine and totally mess up the act!!!  Yes, that was me!! 

Nevertheless, I tried something new, found that I liked it, could laugh at myself and literally did "Shake" up my exercise regime!  So, everyone get out there, do something new and get a jump start on exercise, even before the New Year.

Saturday, December 4, 2010

During this Holiday Season: Plan to Stay on Plan

The Holidays are now upon us.   It is a time to celebrate with family, friends and food. I know a number of people who have been working on losing weight this past year or have even started a new diet just before the holidays.  If you have been working on your weight loss plan, you may want to plan to stay on plan and not sabotage your weight loss goals during the holiday season!  By making a commitment to yourself and your health, you can enjoy the holiday season and celebrations without abandoning your weight loss goals.  I know I plan to stay on plan, so here are some points to consider while celebrating the holidays and sticking to your healthy lifestyle: 

-Don't think diet, rather think about eating healthier and your choice of weight loss plan is simply your lifestyle.

-Tell your friends and family you are working at a weight loss goal.  Help them better understand your choice of foods and the reasons why you are eating healthier.


-Eat before going to a holiday celebration or party.  Most likely, you will be less likely to be hungry and fill up on snack foods, sweets and drinks.


-Reduce or avoid alcohol .  Instead, drink plenty of water or sparkling water with lemon or lime.


-Prepare or bring low-fat, healthier dishes to gatherings or parties.


-Avoid skipping eating before the big holiday meal. You don't want to be starving and then make the choice to eat sweets and other unhealthy foods.

- Relax and enjoy the joy of the holidays. If you do cave, and have desserts, for example, just get right back on track, right back on plan.

-Do keep up your exercise regime.  It will help you maintain your weight loss, give you more energy and help you to deal better with any holiday stress. Exercise will keep your focus to stay on plan with your weight loss goals.

During this holiday and gift-giving season, give yourself the greatest gift of all, the gift of health and well-being and make it your joy to stay on plan. 

Monday, November 22, 2010

Have an Attitude of Gratitude This Thanksgiving

Our Holiday of Thanksgiving is soon to be here.   The busy part of the Holiday is joyous with the food, family and friends.  For those of us who are on a diet and desire to stay on plan, we may have to make adjustments to the typical traditions of Thanksgiving.

Being mentally prepared for "Turkey Day" is so important. Let's face it, it is a big "eating" Holiday.  You may want to decide if you want go off your diet for one day or stick to it .  If you do go off plan, get right back at it the very next day.  If you make a commitment to stay on course, be strong, stay on plan, and be mentally prepared ahead of time to do this.

Whether or not we go off our diets, or stay the course this Thanksgiving Day, I suggest we take some time to reflect upon, what I call an Atttitude of Gratitude.  Thanksgiving is a time of remembrance for what we are thankful.  An Attitude of Gratitude means focusing on what we do have, not on what we don't have. Take the time, on this Holiday, to think about all the things for which you are most grateful .  Remind yourself about what is truly good and makes you happy in your life.

As our Thanksgiving Holiday arrives reflect on the love, joy, kindness, goodness in your heart and all the positive reasons be thankful.  Let your Attitude of Gratitude shine through in all you do!
Happy Thanksgiving to all,
Lynn 

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

The Power of Support

Support for our weight loss goals is so important.  I do believe we do so much better when those closest to us, family and friends, encourage us to stay on our weight loss plan and support us as we make the healthy choice to improve ourselves.  Another group that can be extremely helpful is our peer group.  Those people who are on the same plan as us can be of tremendous help.  There are various ways our relationship with those who support us can help us lose weight, boost our self-esteem and encourage us to keep on going.

When following a weight loss plan, we all have our ups and downs. (and I'm not just talking about the scale!)  When the down happens, the best defense to stay way from failure is resilience.  When we have a good support system in place, the power of that provides a good perspective if discouragement or self-doubt set in.  Supportive people can help us focus on the bigger picture of our success, hopes, determination and strength. 

When seeking support for your weight loss goals, embrace those who whole-heartedly encourage you to keep going and stay on plan.  Surround yourself with others who are positive, who reinforce, serve and sustain your choice to get and stay healthy.

Stay away from those people who pass judgments or discourage you from making the best personal choice for your weight loss.  If you come across anyone who interferes with your plan or dismisses your good intentions for your most healthy weight loss goals, stay away from and, by all means, don't listen to them!

I have surrounded myself with people who encourage me to stay on track.  Luckily, I have a good group of family and friends who do support my efforts at weight loss.  I have found wonderful online support groups that are going through the same issues as me on the plan we follow.  These new friends have provided a wonderful sense of support because they live, know and work the same plan.  To those who are not the most supportive, I have learned to just say no, not to listen to them and instead focus upon the best support for the transformation of my own health.  I encourage you to do the same and continue to seek out the best support for you!

Thursday, November 4, 2010

When the Bottom Line is Your Well-Being, What is Your Net Worth?

Actually, this title sounds like something from a financial statement; however, the topic here is about self worth, self esteem and self confidence.  Believe me, self esteem is a precious resource that money cannot buy, but with the value we put into it, we can experience it   

According to Nathaniel Branden, PhD in his book, The Power of Self-Esteem: An Inspiring Look At Our Most Important Psychological Resource, “Self-esteem is the experience that we are appropriate to life and to the requirements of life. More specifically, self-esteem is having the confidence in our ability to think and to cope with the basic challenges of life."  Also, having the "confidence in our right to be happy, the feeling of being worthy, deserving, entitled to assert our needs and wants and to enjoy the fruits of our efforts.”

Our self esteem begins to be developed during our childhood and youth.  The family is the first group we have reference to about ourselves, then we go to school and socialize with friends outside of  the family.  This is how we learn to see ourselves through our interaction with others.  This starts at an early developmental stage of our lives.  If our family dynamics are such that we are criticized by family, then our our feelings of self worth begin to develop on a lower level.. Our low self esteem strips us of our self confidence as we then start to go out into the world of school and society. If our family dynamics are good, yet, we are criticized by our friends, this sets us up at a very early age to think poorly of ourselves, and makes us feel we do not deserve to be happy.  Everybody is different and has different experiences in life.  Low self esteem can also develop later in life as we develop relationships with others and /or start listening to that inner self critic.

When it comes to the issue of weight, low self esteem can lead to weight problems.  These thoughts of unworthiness can lead us to assuage our feelings with the comfort of food and that leads to emotional eating.  At the same time, if we have problems with metabolic syndrome, insulin resistance, diabetes, that conundrum of problems can throw us off hormonally,  make us crave carbs, make us depressed and physically makes us gain weight (because insulin is the fat growth hormone).  To top it all off, if you are a woman with PCOS Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome (http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/polycystic-ovary-syndrome/DS00423) you may be overweight, have excess hair on the face and body and have acne.  What woman wouldn't be depressed and have issues with low self esteem with those symptoms?

There are so many issues to be discussed when speaking of the correlation of being over-weight and low self esteem.  I'm sure there have been many studies done on this very issue.  Recently, within a more personal context, people have told me they have low self esteem and self confidence and that affects their life because they:

feel disgusted with themselves for gaining weight

lack the confidence to go to social functions like parties, reunions, to the beach

finding clothes to fit is a stressor and they get down on themselves

feel they lack the will power to attempt a weight loss plan

think negatively about themselves

don't like their picture taken because of the excess weight

All these aforementioned issues (which just scratch the surface of this topic) are due in part to low self esteem and low self confidence.  These issues can be dealt with by improving self esteem.  By just taking that first step and committing to a weight loss plan, you can begin change these problems.  I'm not saying it's easy; but it is doable and necessary!  I know this can be turned around because it happened for me when I got on plan and began to lose weight.  My self esteem and confidence did change for the better.

Some tips on developing a better sense of self esteem are the following:

-Join a support group, either in person or online.  You need to have positive acceptance and feedback.  the more places to find that, the better.

-Try to think more positively about yourself. Replace negative self- talk with positive.  Avoid toxic, negative people who bring you down.  Negative people give & get negative feedback.

-Don't dismiss your achievements,  your determination or compliments from others.

Improving our self esteem increases our confidence and is a first step towards finding happiness and more fruitful life. You gain this confidence by believing in you, finding you do have self worth, believing you are special, and that you deserve a good life. Your well-being is your bottom line and you are worth it!

Sunday, October 31, 2010

Focus on Your Weight Loss Success Not Your Mistakes

To be successful, we need to focus on success!  We become more self-confident when we look at all the good and right things we are doing for our health and well-being.  Think about your all your successes, then build upon all that has been going well.  Just starting a diet plan is a huge success as you have decided to take that first step to improve your life.  Then we learn about the plan, become organized and start the journey to weight loss.  These are the building blocks to successful thinking and dieting.

When we limit our thinking and focus on the mistakes we may have made on our diet plan, that "weighs" us down!  We don't want to become discouraged and give up!  If you do make a mistake, just get up, dust yourself off, get back on track and get back on plan.  It's OK to do this; I give you permission to do so!!!  Think about this:  what advice would you give to a friend who may have slipped up?  Be your own friend to yourself.  Be your own good motivational coach!

Losing weight, staying on plan requires a great deal of determination.  Greater success is likely, when we focus on the positive and all the success we have accomplished.  Being able to believe in yourself and all the good you are doing for your well-being will make your weight- loss journey a successful trip.

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Align Yourself with Healthy Eating Choices

"Focus on what at you can have,
not what you can't have."
-Lynn Merritt

Focus on what at you can have, not what you can't have.  I said this years ago to my best friend as we started another diet together.  I still use my old faithful affirmation today as I continue my journey on my weight loss lifestyle.  I love this saying!

I think when we focus on the positive side of things, life is easier, we make the right choices that are the best for us, things are less stressful and we feel good!  When on a diet, we can make healthy choices or bad choices.   Behaviorally, when we focus on positive affirmations that help us make better choices, that leads us to positive actions.  I always like the glass to be half full, not half empty; therefore, we have to focus on what is the best and the right eating choice for us. We can change our focus away from bad food choices to focusing upon all the wonderful healthy eating choices that are out there.  All it takes is an easy shift in attitude.

Being committed to a lower carb, low glycemic, low fat diet for awhile now, I have learned to make changes and substitutions in what I eat as compared to what I used to eat.  For example, I made the choice to switch to low carb breads.  My sweetener of choice is Truvia.  My "hot chocolate" is unsweetened chocolate almond milk with truvia heated up on a cold morning.  When I go out to eat, salads have replaced fries as side orders and sauteed spinach has replaced pasta. I'm happy to say I have become very creative.  I don't feel deprived about these choices at all; I feel so happy that I have focused on making the best switch for my diet/lifestyle.  This comes so natural to me because I have aligned myself with  more positive thinking.  The best part is this:  I see and feel the amazing results of weight loss because of my positive alignment with all the right choices!  And, that is a really good feeling.

As you continue on your own weight loss journey, go ahead,  be creative, be committed and be in alignment with the best eating choices for you!  I know you can do it.  Lynn

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Temptation: Be Assertive and Stay On Course

Here in the United States we are getting ready for the upcoming Holidays.  On deck is Halloween and the candy, Thanksgiving and the stuffing (I'm not just talking about the stuffing in the bird), Christmas and the celebrating.  I know I have readers from South Korea, United Kingdom, Russia, Ukraine, Romania, Canada, South Africa and Denmark, and you have your special Holidays, so please apply this information to your most special days.  

With the upcoming Holiday traditions, temptation to go off your diet is strong.  As you know, I have been on the plan I follow for 13 months now.  In that year's time, I didn't go off plan on the Holidays.  I stayed strong and stayed on plan throughout the celebratory days.  I made it a point to do so.  In this blog entry, I 'll talk about strategies to stay on plan during our special days.  (I will admit to you that this year I turned 50 and I did "celebrate" abundantly on my big day!!!)  My only "cheat" in 13 months!  I forgave myself and moved on.

I learned if we choose to stay on plan during the Holidays these are good skills work with:

Assertiveness:  Remember the saying?   "Just say no."  You have to be able to assert yourself.  It's hard enough to say no to yourself, let alone family members who are not on plan.  The Holidays are so emotional too, so be strong.  Say no nicely, let people know you are on a diet.  Believe me it gets easier with practice.

Alignment:  Work with your healthy choices.  This is an exercise in self control and discipline.  If your diet plan and health means a great deal to you, stay on your course.  Your self esteem will increase when you stick to it.

Courage:  It does take a lot of courage to say no in the face of temptation.  You can do it.  You had the courage to start your diet in the first place, right?

Confidence:  Have the confidence in yourself to be in control.  Have the confidence to know you can get through these times.  You can do it. Tell yourself you can do it.  You are strong! 

I spoke of positive self-talk before.  Keep that dialogue going on with yourself during these times.  Be honest with people and your family, let them know you are making healthy lifestyle choices, even during the Holidays.  Most people are understanding.

Think about how wonderful you will feel if you stay away from temptation, stay in control, and stick to your plan.  I know you can do it. The Holidays are almost here; start practicing now!!!!

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Is it Emotional Eating or Insulin Resistance?

Recently, I have had some conversations with people who claim they are emotional eaters.  That is, they feel the need to eat when they are stressed, feel depressed, are angry, have anxiety, have low self-esteem, are bored or trying to compensate for a lack of something in their lives.  Although, there very well may be people out there who do overeat and are overweight because of emotional reasons, I have come to the realization that there are a great number of people who think they are emotional eaters; yet, they just may be overeating because of a physiological problem called Insulin Resistance. 

It is interesting to note that The American Psychiatric Association has never made a statement that overeating or being overweight is a psychiatric disorder.  I also find it interesting that the DSM IV, which is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the most the most widely used psychiatric reference in the world, does not have a mental disorder diagnostic code for overeating.

Now, let's discuss Insulin Resistance, a big factor in Metabolic Syndrome.  As I said in a past blog entry, Insulin is the fat growth hormone which is produced by the pancreas and that allows glucose into cells where it can be utilized as fuel. Because of heredity and lifestyle, (consumption of too much carbohydrates and lack of exercise) cells can become resistant to insulin. This causes the pancreas to pump out more insulin than is normal to get glucose inside the cell. When this happens it is known as "insulin resistance" (IR)   Studies have shown that people with Insulin Resistance can experience brain dysfunction due to this hormonal imbalance.  This can give a direct link to depression and IR. 

When we are depressed, that is. physiologically depressed, we have lower levels of serotonin.  Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that makes us feel good, calms us and gives us a sense of overall well-being.  When we lack serotonin, that can make us feel depressed.  Now, eating too many carbohydrates cause an increase in serotonin levels, so our brain sends out more messages to eat carbs (carb cravings).  Because of these carb cravings, we cave into them physiologically, eat the carbs and our body pumps out the fat growth hormone insulin and we become overweight.  This is the vicious cycle of Metabolic Syndrome.

See what I am getting at here?  If you have Insulin Resistance (Metabolic Syndrome) maybe, just maybe, you are not really the "emotional eater" you thought you were!  Could it be your body responding to something very physical?  And not all those aforementioned emotional issues? 

As a person with Metabolic Syndorme, I have experienced this.  Since being on a healthy, lower carb, lower glycemic, lower fat diet/lifestyle, I have seriously lost those carb cravings and feel, physically, better than ever.

If you suspect you may have metabolic issues, talk to your health care professional about blood testing for Metabolic Syndrome.  Look for the kind of diet plan I follow,  commit to a realistic exercise program, get nutritional guidance and a make sure you have a support system that will help you change any unhealthy lifestyle choices.

Monday, October 25, 2010

Commitment: Make Your Weight Loss Goals a Successful Reality

"I'm going to do this thing."
- Lynn Merritt

For those of you who know me, I'm a very creative person; yet, at the same time, I tend to be a practical thinker too.  I don't mind following routines and plans when working with a weight loss regime.  I like to have a solid foundation within a plan.  It is my opinion to be successful with permanent weight loss we must have a guideline, or a foundation in place.  It's really quite easy; we must follow a diet that fits us and exercise.  We must commit to a lifestyle change and develop a health-minded consciousness to lose and keep the weight off.

Let's talk about the big C:  Commitment.  First of all, no one and I'll emphasize, no one can make us lose weight.  We have to want to "do this thing" for ourselves.  How many of us, over the years, have tried to lose weight; yet, were not really committed?  When we are ready to work on weight loss and for the right reasons, we become invincible!  We do it. 

Because it takes effort to make the commitment to start and stay on a weight loss plan as a lifestyle, try to resolve any other emotional issues going on in your life.  As you work on your physical changes, a good balance is to take care of your mind and spirit too.  An excellent way to work within the foundation of balance is to surround yourself with supportive people who will be there for you, body, mind and spirit. 
Ideally, those closest to you should be the best support; however, if you feel family or friends are not the most supportive, seek out a support group either in person or online.  There are plenty of them out there.  Find the people who share your new way of thinking and desire a healthier lifestyle too.  You can do it and it is ultimately your responsibility to commit to a plan for your health, but you don't have to do it alone!

When you have that commitment to do something good for yourself, make sure you have a plan, stick to it, seek support, be realistic, exercise, and make it all a lifestyle habit.  I have the complete confidence in you that you can "do this thing" too!  Lynn

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Self Confidence: Believe in Yourself and Discover Your Success

"What seems impossible one minute becomes,
 through faith, possible the next." 
-Norman Vincent Peale

Self confidence is an extremely good tool to have in your personal toolbox. It is an attitude that, when in balance and check, will serve you well. I think most people tend to have a sense of lower confidence in themselves.  This attitude tends to make us avoid setting goals and taking a risk in trying something new, especially when it comes to actually setting weight loss goals and going for it in a weight loss plan!  I cannot say I know too many over confident people; yet, if too over confident, one may not even try hard enough to really succeed.  A good, reasonable, sense of the right amount of self confidence is this:  having the belief and faith in yourself, your worth and your abilities. 

Negative thinking, or listening to other people's negative attitudes, can set you up for a vicious cycle that squelches your self confidence.  How many of you can relate to this cycle?  Negative thinking and negative self-talk, leads to decreased self confidence, which leads to not discovering and experiencing your true success, which leads back to negative thinking.  The vicious cycle, which is most likely not even reality!  When working toward your weight loss goals, it is best to avoid this type of thinking.

Here are some tips for building your self confidence when working on weight loss:

Build a knowledge base for your success.  Find a weight loss plan that works for you.  Study the plan, gain an understanding of how it works, be organized and follow it.

Set weight loss goals.  Know your reasons for wanting to achieve your goals.

Make a commitment to stay on plan for yourself.

Keep up the positive thinking.  Don't talk to yourself... unless it's positive self talk!  Start by being your own coach and motivational speaker.  Remember I kept saying, about the weight loss plan I follow, "I'm going to do this thing."  You will begin to inspire yourself at first, then when others see your success, you will be an inspiration to others!

Take the chance.  Take that chance to start something new, to lose the weight, not only physically, but emotionally too.

In conclusion, when you take the time to really believe in yourself, motivate yourself, and build upon self confidence, you do indeed discover a successful You!

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Fear of Success

Most of us know all the reasons why we want to lose weight.  What we don't tend to think about is the reasons for not wanting to lose weight.  You may want to look a little below the surface and see if there are any scary feelings that have to do with being successful with your weight loss goal. 

In general, I do think we have fearful feelings when starting anything new.  As a matter of fact, when someone suggested I write this blog, I was actually scared to do it.  I didn't want to admit it, so I cast light on the shadowy fear.  I faced my fears and did it anyway. As a result,  I have found interacting within this media to be pleasurable, thought provoking and fun!  Not as scary as I thought!

I read somewhere that FEAR stands for:
Fantasized and often Frightful
Experiences
Appearing
Real
 
A long time ago,  I read that those fears we conjure up... only 5% of those fears tend to be real.  If this is the case, then what are we doing to ourselves, especially when it comes to weight loss goals?  Lets look at some fears that probably are not real; yet, may be deep inside us.  Here are some examples of emotional issues that may go hand in hand with fear of success:

-Fears we may accomplish ours goals, but still not be happy.

-Feeling we are unworthy or undeserving of the recognition that we have accomplished something successful.  When we lose a significant amount of weight, people do notice the physical you is different.  This can draw attention to ourselves and some people fear that 

-Fears of making mistakes on a diet plan.

-Not believing in yourself to attempt and stick to a diet plan again

-Fears you cannot commit to a healthy weight loss regime

-Not believing you possess the motivation to start or continue on a plan for health.

So, if maybe 5% of these fears or beliefs are not even real what can we do to alleviate our fears?   

Try this to turn fear of success into true success:

Remind yourself of the hard work and effort you have put into you weight loss goals.

Visualize your success.

Take a look at how you can measure your success.  For example, how you feel, look, how your clothes fit, what inches you have lost, even, what the scale says.

Be realistic with yourself by positive thinking.  Try to avoid negative self-talk.

Accept the compliments that are given to you when people see those changes.  Don’t put yourself down after a kind word from someone.  Simply, say “Thank You” when someone compliments you.  

Give consideration to whether any fears are thwarting your weight loss goals. Do not be fearful of your hard earned success. Sometimes this may be something from the past that does not even serve you emotionally anymore.  By casting a light on your shadowy fears, this reduces anxieties and paves the way for a truly successful you!



Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Think of Your Weight Loss Plan as a Lifestyle Career Not Just a Diet

I recently spent time with my longtime Mentor and my group of fabulous colleagues and friends.  We don't see each other often, but as good friends, we always pick up where we last left off.  I have not seen these people in a year or more, and within that year's time, I have worked on weight loss and changed physically in a significant way. 

Naturally, when you look differently and things are going well, people are curious and interested in what you have been up to!  I told them about the plan I follow and what impressed my friends is that the plan is actually a lifestyle, not just a diet.

I have come to realize that my weight loss plan is my lifestyle.  To put things into another perspective, let's say your weight loss lifestyle is actually your career.  As I said before, you are the Chairman of the Board, and the CEO of your life! 

Take a look at it this way.   Most people are really into their career, work hard to do well, get ahead, and to earn that paycheck.  Why not apply those values to your weight loss choice and work as hard for yourself as you do in your chosen profession?  And what about the paycheck for this?  An amazing paycheck of well-being, health, control of your life, feeling good and feeling positive and confident!  All those things money can't buy, right?  So, it makes sense to make your weight loss plan your lifestyle and your career! 

I'm a firm believer in once you set your mind to something, you can do it and you can make anything happen!  That said, set your mind to do a plan, make the commitment, make it your successful career and enjoy the benefits of You, Inc!

Saturday, October 16, 2010

What If...

....you decided to take responsibility for yourself and commit to a permanent lifestyle change and not just a temporary diet for your well being of body, mind and spirit?

...you decided to meet your weight loss challenges head on and decided to drop the excuses why you could not stick to a weight loss plan?

...you decided drop the excuses as to why you cannot exercise?

...you decided to tap into your motivation and reasons to work toward your weight loss goals?

...you decided to prioritize your life by taking the time and dedication for yourself to get healthy?

...you decided not to let yourself or anyone else sabotage your weight loss efforts?

...you decided to release the fear of taking that first step of starting a diet, a plan for your health?

When I decided to begin the weight loss plan of my choice, I was told by a friend, "Don't waste your money, you'll never do this."  I said "No, I think I'm going to do this thing."  and I did it.  I got on plan, made the commitment to it, took on my responsibility for my health.  Now, a little over a year later, I see, feel and experience the most amazing results.  I have complete confidence you can do it too. 

It simply starts with the positive side of What If...

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Planning and Organizing for Weight-Loss Success

This is a topic that is close to my heart.  I actually like to plan and organize.  I have found my weight loss journey so much easier and pleasant when I do have a plan.  First of all, the weight loss lifestyle/diet I do follow, I actually like.  No, I love it.  I love having this specific plan to follow; I like the details and the exact sense it all makes for me.  I found something that works for me; subsequently, I build all my diet planning and organization around that. 

When you feel you are in control of your life by having a plan and being organized, there is less chance for slip-ups.  Emotionally, when you're organized you feel better about the diet, you have less stress, it helps with progress and your motivation to keep going. 

Leaving things to chance or trying to diet by the seat of your pants is not optimal.  Usually, this does not work.  At the same time, and behaviorally speaking, planning can become a natural way of life on the diet, almost habit forming if practiced on a consistent basis.

From grocery shopping, eating at home, eating at work, eating at friends & family to going out to a restaurant, I plan everything out ahead of time. This is the key. I have come to realize, if I have everything all set in my mind, there is almost zero chance for mistakes.  When grocery shopping I have a list.  Eating at home is not a problem since I'm always well prepared.  Planning daily/weekly menus would be good; yet, I'll be honest, I never do that.  Do that if you feel the need to do so.  Work: I aways bring the proper lunch & snacks.  Eating at friends & family:  I have no problem in asking what will be served.  I let people know I'm on a diet and everyone, really, is helpful.  At the same time, I have no problem in bringing my own food.  At restaurants, I ask if things can be substituted.  I cannot remember a time when I was not accommodated.

I plan exercise into my daily schedule. 

I have everything organized, all the things I need when I travel.  I leave nothing to chance.

I used to fill out a food log to see where I was doing well, but also where I may have been making mistakes.  I highly recommend this activity.  Keeps you on track.  I have the plan I am on so burned in my head, I don't need to do that anymore.  It's just second nature now.

The planning and organization of a diet for weight loss success is critical.  I cannot imagine not being focused. You will notice the difference if you make planning a priority.  The more you make planning a habit, the easier it is to reach your goals.

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

A Holistic Approach to the Well-Being of Mind Body and Spirit

Ok, so I'll admit it, I'm a half glass full kind of gal.  I'm an optimistic, upbeat and happy person.  I tend to be a positive thinker the majority of the time.  That said, I do feel when we get into the habit of thinking in a more positive light, we nurture our holistic, or "whole-istic" being.  That is, our entire self of mind, body and spirit. 

When working on any inner personal issue in life, things just seem to go much easier when working within a positive attitude.  You may notice that there is an ease and flow to your efforts ; it seems as if things were meant to be.  Therefore, so be it.

When working with the body for well being,  It is best to work toward balance.  For those of us with Metabolic Syndrome it is all about balancing out the hormone Insulin.  Lifestyle adjustments such as the right diet, which is usually a low carb, low fat, low glycemic regime is essential.  Exercise is also very important as well as taking your vitamins and drinking plenty of water.

With the mind, well-being starts with having a positive attitude and flipping that attitude around to the good when things may not be going so well.  It helps to work on hormonal balance too because an imbalance can throw the mind off and that, in turn, throws emotions off.  Meditation  is a great way to calm and quiet the mind and reduce stress.   A plan to get rid of stress is so helpful in balancing Insulin levels.

The Spiritual realm of well-being involves prayer, meditation, in order to connect with what you deeply believe in.  Your faith can take your far!

In conclusion, when attempting to lose weight, improving your health and living a great life, consider a holistic approach to improving self, your whole self!  Work with your body, mind and spirit to reach those positive goals you have decided to attain.  You will find the path to wellness is easier and the results amazing!  Lynn

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Insulin Resistance and Panic Attacks

Insulin is the fat growth hormone which is produced by the pancreas and that allows glucose into cells where it can be utilized as fuel. Because of heredity and lifestyle, (consumption of too much carbohydrates and lack of exercise) cells can become resistant to insulin. This causes the pancreas to pump out more insulin than is normal to get glucose inside the cell. When this happens it is known as "insulin resistance" (IR)   Studies have shown that people with Insulin Resistance can experience brain dysfunction due to this hormonal imbalance.

There are many, many medical and psychological conditions which are related to problems with Insulin Resistance.  One symptom as a result of Insulin Resistance, psychologically speaking, is Anxiety.  One disorder within the category of Anxiety is Panic Attacks. 

According to the DSM IV, which is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the most the most widely used psychiatric reference in the world, Panic Attacks are defined as such:

"A discrete period of intense fear or discomfort, in which four (or more) of the following symptoms developed abruptly and reached a peak within 10 minutes:
1) palpitations, pounding heart, or accelerated heart rate
2) sweating
3) trembling or shaking
4) sensations of shortness of breath or smothering
5) feeling of choking
6) chest pain or discomfort
7) nausea or abdominal distress
8) feeling dizzy, unsteady, lightheaded, or faint
9) derealization (feelings of unreality) or depersonalization (being detached from oneself)
10) fear of losing control or going crazy
11) fear of dying
12) paresthesias (numbness or tingling sensations)
13) chills or hot flushes"
To be very honest, I can personally tell you about Panic Attacks.  Nearly 30 years ago, I remember experiencing severe Panic Attacks while in Graduate School.  I experienced feelings of losing control (floor tipping as I walked, feelings I may do something crazy like jump off a balcony, feeling I may flip out while driving) feeling like I was having a heart attack, feeling like something was heavy sitting on my chest, shakiness, numbness and I had the sensation of the taste of copper in my mouth.  I simply thought it was all because I was under extreme stress in school. 

Since I have been working on diet which lessens the problems of Insulin Resistance (which is also part of Metabolic Syndrome)  I have come to realize I may have had these Panic Attacks due to Insulin Resistance as well as stress.  And stress contributes to hormonal imbalance too!

My point here is, wouldn't it make sense if we treated and or prevented Metabolic Syndrome by focusing on diet, exercise, lifestyle changes and medication when needed, then we could also prevent or lessen the problems of Panic Attacks and other Anxiety Disorders? 

In conclusion, if you are dealing with Metabolic Syndrome and Insulin Resistance, you may also be experiencing an Anxiety disorder.  It stands to reason if you get your insulin resistance in check, your mental health could significantly improve.  Consider discussing this with your Medical Health and or Mental Health Care Professional.   Take care, Lynn

Reference:
DSM IV

Are You the Chairman of the Board of Change, Inc?

Without continual growth and progress,
such words as improvement, achievement, and success
have no meaning.            - Benjamin Franklin


This blog entry today is not based on any formal study in human behavior, nor is it based on any empirical data.  It is about the real reasons and possibilities people can change and move on with transforming their lives for the good.  It is my thought that basically, in general, people want to change if they are overweight.  I do believe people want to be healthy at healthy weight levels and they want to be well.   I did. 

When it comes to change, I think there is a fine line between wanting to change and fear of doing so. What is more important to you?  It's as if taking the plunge into change is a 50/50  thing (50% wanting to change and 50% fear of this transformation).  I thought, what would it take to make it a 51/49 % takeover in favor of change?  Where do you draw the line to move into this transformational mode? 

Let's pretend Change Inc is a company and you own 50% of it's stock shares.  You do indeed want to do a friendly takeover so you become The Chairman of the Board!  What would you do to takeover Change Inc by 1 %?  What would that 1 % be: (your reason to attempt a weight loss plan for well-being) 
Would it be for:

-Your health
-Your kids who depend on a healthy you
-Your looks
-The desire to attract a mate/relationship
-The ability wear certain clothing styles
-The ability to follow a plan
-You to get honest with yourself
-Whatever personal reason you have in order to foster healthy change

It's like this:
Companies (fear of Change) are at risk of takeovers because opposing companies (you) can purchase large amounts of their stock to gain a controlling share. (you and your desires and reasons to change)  Your company does not have to respect the feelings of the Board of Directors because you would already own and control the firm. (you as Chairman of the Board thinking positvely about doing this vs. negatively resisting to change and moving forward)

In conclusion, I do believe in all the possibilities to make our lives better, I do have the confidence we are the Chairman of the Board of our own life and we all have our reasons to "takeover" our lives!!!  Lynn

Monday, October 11, 2010

Have Patience With Your Weight Loss Plan

Patience is the act of fortitude even under difficult circumstances, which can mean continuing on even with  delays or roadblocks. Patience keeps us away from negativity by helping us to calmly stay the course. It also means being steadfast and not giving up.

I just took some time to reflect upon my recent year long journey of weight loss.  I"ll always be working the plan I am on as a lifestyle plan of action, not a diet so to speak.  As I thought back to my early days on this, I realized  I really didn't do everything right on or according to directions.  Even though I wasn't perfect on the plan, I managed to lose 11 pounds in the initial phase.  That was ok by me!

To be honest, I think I didn't do everything right because I was too overwhelmed with all the directions, rules of engagement in and execution of this new path to well-being.  I was truly overwhelmed by figuring out the eating plan itself; nevermind the fact I was supposed to take vitamins, drink 64 oz of water, and exercise at least 5 times a week for 30 minutes. Initially, I didn't do anything really but follow the food part of the plan. Over time, as I learned this plan; however, I started to reintroduce all those things I did not do at first.

It's a very easy plan to do; yet, how many of you can relate to starting a new diet and feeling like you can only take it one step at a time? I think it is very common to feel this way when starting any new weight loss attempt. It would be nice to do everything right about a plan right from the get-go.  I have come to realize it was patience that helped me to stay in focus and on point on this WOL (way of living).

The good news is that eventually I figured out everything.  I added the water, then the vitamins and I also really ramped up my exercise regime.  I must pause to say, I did seek out the guidance and expertise of a Professional Nutritional Counselor.    But I had the patience to do this thing!  I didn't stay overwhelmed and give up. 

To conclude my story here, having patience helped me to achieve my victories and that, in turn, helped me to build  more and more confidence to keep on going and doing the plan right.    To have the patience to keep adding the correct components of the plan to my life, I was able to measure my progress and success!

I encourage everyone to work with patience when taking on any new weight loss plan.  Be patient and kind to yourself as you move ahead in a new, positive direction.  Lynn

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Spin Weight Loss Sabotage Into Weight Loss Support

If you read my introduction on this Blog, you will know that I have been following a way of eating (WOE) plan for the past year now.  It really is a lifestyle that has become a natural way of life for me.  On this plan. I have lost 40 lbs, (looks like it's 80 lbs because it's fat loss) many inches and I feel better than I have ever felt in my whole adult life.  I'm getting in balance, feeling good, looking good,  feeling focused and more confident in the world. I know I look like a totally different person, but really, I'm still me!

I've had some experiences, as of late, that I would like to share with you and discuss how to handle tricky interactions with others.  The thing is, I've received a few comments at work by people who have been saying what I think they believe to be positive statements about my weight loss but seems like they have been saying them in a not so positive way.  Check these statements out.....

"You have lost so much weight, are you sick?"  I'm sure this person had real concern for me and my well-being, but some people tend to see the glass half-empty.  If this kind of issue comes up, it's best to just reassure the person you are ok, tell them you feel the best you have in years and encourage them to be happy for you.  Say to them, you are meeting the goals you have set for good health.

"You don't need to lose anymore weight."  I know I am getting very close to my goal weight.  Probably 5 more pounds.  I'm honest with people, and tell them just that.  I reassure them I am realistic about my goal weight, my weight loss and am looking forward to reaching my goal.

"You're melting away to being invisible."  Ok, that one was weird.  I had to stop, pause and visualize that one!  Then, we laughed at the absurdity!  Really!

Throughout this past year, I have had family gatherings, holidays, birthdays and special dinners.  Some issues I've had to deal with from family members or friends are things like this:  (you may relate)

"Oh, you've been doing really good, you can have some cake"  I always politely remind them, that I am on plan and cake just isn't my thing.  The WOE I'm on actually balances out my metabolism and I really have no desire for cake.  A good strategy I use is to bring a dessert that fits my plan to take to functions. 

"You don't like my cooking anymore?"  I remind them that I actually love their cooking, but I'm working with a very specific food plan.  My strategy:  I have no problem in bringing my own food.

It just may be people are uncomfortable with change; love the old you; the person they are used to. Although my spouse is very supportive of my WOE and decision to get healthy, I have dealt with this:

"If you get thin and too beautiful, are you going to leave me?"  I use reassurance. I make it a point to say we have been together for so many years and I am not going anywhere.

When working on a diet plan, losing weight, getting healthy and taking care of yourself,  it's best to be organized, in control, motivated and committed to your goals.  Do this thing for you!  Deflect any sabotage with kindness and understanding.  People are concerned and curious about you, the changes you are going through and how you are doing just that!  Turn negative comments into positive ones and be the first one to be happy for you!  Lynn

Metabolic Syndrome and Depression

Recent studies have shown that there is a link between Depression and Metabolic Syndrome.  According to the Mayo Clinic, the clinical symptoms Metabolic Syndrome are as follows: 
"Having metabolic syndrome means you have three or more disorders related to your metabolism at the same time, including:
  • Obesity, particularly around your waist (having an "apple shape")
  • A systolic (top number) blood pressure measurement higher than 120 millimeters of mercury (mm Hg) or a diastolic (bottom number) blood pressure measurement higher than 80 mm Hg
  • An elevated level of the blood fat called triglycerides and a low level of high-density lipoprotein (HDL) cholesterol — the "good" cholesterol
  • Resistance to insulin, a hormone that helps to regulate the amount of sugar in your body"
I also know Metabolic Syndrome also includes problems with regard to Pre-diabetes, Diabetes type II, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and Thyroid problems, too. 

This study, http://www.psychiatrist.com/abstracts/abstracts.asp?abstract=200802/020801.htm called

Metabolic Syndrome Predisposes to Depressive Symptoms: A Population-Based 7-Year Follow-Up Study  concluded this: "The higher rate of depressive symptoms in the subgroup with metabolic syndrome suggests that the metabolic syndrome may be an important predisposing factor for the development of depression. Effective prevention and treatment of metabolic syndrome could also be important for the prevention of depression."


Let's talk Depression:  According to the DSM IV, which is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the most the most widely used psychiatric reference in the world, Major Depression is a mood disorder which "consists of many of the following symptoms and occurs nearly every day for at least two weeks:
  • Depressed mood most of the day; feeling sad or empty, tearful
  • Significant loss of interest or pleasure in activities that used to be enjoyable
  • Significant weight loss (when not dieting) or weight gain; decrease or increase in appetite
  • Difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much
  • Agitation; or slowing down of thoughts and reduction of physical movements
  • Fatigue or loss of energy
  • Feelings of worthlessness or inappropriate guilt
  • Poor concentration or having difficulty making decisions
  • Thinking about death or suicide"
There is also situational depression, such as feeling depressed over a situation such as the loss of a relationship or a loved one, for example.  There also may be depression because of a family history of the disease.  There are many types of depression.

All this made me think if someone is diagnosed with Metabolic Syndrome, there is a good chance for  depression to be in the picture.  I have been told that, in a nutshell, when hormonal levels are not right, when blood sugar is off, then the brain is off and emotions are out of balance.  (Metabolic Syndrome)

Then I thought, wouldn't it make sense if we treated and or prevented Metabolic Syndrome by focusing on diet, exercise, lifestyle changes and medication when needed, then we could also prevent or lessen the symptoms of depression?  This is something to really think about doing for yourself, for your well-being of body, mind and spirit! 

In conclusion, if you are dealing with Metabolic Syndrome, you may also be experiencing depression.  Is it that your mental health could significantly improve right along with your hormonal balance?  This is a very important point to discuss with your health care professional.




References:
© 1998-2010 Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research (MFMER).
J Clin Psychiatry 2008;69:178-182
DSM IV

Friday, October 8, 2010

Forgiveness

“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love.
In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness”
– Robert Muller

Very recently, because of some tragic news, I decided to work through a huge lesson in forgiving someone who was hurtful to me.  This was a big issue from my past that was deep, dark and hurtful at a pivotal time in my early developmental years. The good news is that I became so excited and happy when I noticed as I consciously worked on forgiveness, the pain and sorrow began to dissolve and I started to feel better about myself and my life.  It was actually a time of great freedom as I let go of this negativity which I harbored for years inside me.

That experience made me think of how we need to forgive ourselves too.  We can use the tool of forgiveness to calm that inner critic and forge ahead.  To forgive, speeds up the healing process.

While dieting or trying to get up the energy to start, we find ourselves dealing with that inner critic often.  Emotions that "weigh" us down such as anger, sadness, embarrassment, fear and frustration of being overweight, can sabotage our efforts to diet and lose the weight.  Forgiving oneself  is the answer to dissolving these difficult feelings about being overweight, falling off the diet wagon or beating ourselves up for not being able to stick to a plan. Forgiving self makes us feel light and free.

An affirmation for forgiveness of self is this:  I forgive my Self and love my Self, easily and effortlessly now.  Say it over and over again especially when those old, difficult  emotions sneak into your psyche! 

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Hi I'm Lynn Merritt and Welcome To My New Blog

Hello all,

I would like to introduce myself.  I'm Lynn E.Merritt, MSW LCSW.  I hold a Master's degree in Social Work from The University of Connecticut and I'm licensed by the State of Connecticut as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker.  Having a career in Psychiatric Social Work, I specialized in the treatment of Major Affective Disorders as well as other emotional issues. 

Ok, the real reason of my blog, Shrink Yourself: Your Emotions and Weight Loss is to have a place where I can discuss  the emotional components of losing weight, dieting and all around well-being of mind, body and spirit.  I thought the title of this blog was a fun way to tie the emotional feelings we have as we also go through the physiological changes of  losing weight while on a diet.

I have been successfully following a diet plan for the past year now. During this past year, I've lost 40 lbs; yet, even more importantly, I have lost many inches, feel fantastic, my clothes fit well and I feel more emotionally balanced than ever.  Medically speaking, I do have some problems but because of my diet and weight loss that is improving. 

My problem:  I have Metabolic Syndrome, also known as Insulin Resistance, Syndrome X etc.  The metabolic issues here are actually a cluster of a number of problems such as being overweight,  insulin resistance, midline fat, elevated cholesterol levels, hypertension, pre-diabetes, Type 2 diabetes, carbohydrate cravings, Poly Cystic Ovaries (PCOS) depression and anxiety to name a few!  I, personally do not have all these medical problems, but do fall in this category of Metabolic Syndrome.

Therefore, my focus of this blog is twofold: it will center around emotions and weight loss with regard to this metabolic conundrum and I will be discussing, in general, emotional issues surrounding weight loss, diet and well-being.  Lynn

*** Just a reminder: This blog is for informational purposes only.  Always seek the advice of a trained medical health professional with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.